Reminder: Some of this information is from https://www.therapistaid.com/worksheets/boundaries-psychoeducation-printout
Last boundary to chat about!
Can you guess what it could be?
Oh, I guess you probably saw the title. Woops!
The last type is Time boundaries.
Time boundaries refer to how a person uses their time. To have healthy time boundaries, a person must set aside enough time for various facets of their lives such as work, relationships, and hobbies.
Time boundaries are violated when another person demands too much of another's time or when a person chooses to spend all (or most) of their time with one person.
Let's relate back to the closeness of boundaries to this!
What would a porous time boundary look like?
What would a rigid time boundary look like? What would a healthy material boundary look like?
For example, a porous time boundary may be a friend who constantly shows up at your house and overstays their welcome. Let's say you have an appointment at 1 pm. Your friend shows up at 12 pm saying that they need to talk to you. You let them know that you have an appointment at 1 so you can only see them until 12:30 so you aren't late. At 3 pm, they are still there. That may be a porous time boundary.
A rigid time boundary may be somone who is very rigid with their time. For example, I used to know a therapist who would only schedule their clients until :50. So their schedule would be something like: 9-9:50, 10-10:50, etc. Never 9:51 or 9:48. But 9:50. That may be a bit rigid.
Remember!
What is healthy, rigid or porous in our time boundaries (or any type!) depends on your comfort level, the relationship you have with that person, etc. what is healthy for your relationship with your significant other is different from your supervisor at work. It may even be different depending on your friendship/relationship with others too!
That is our last boundary to chat about! Thank you for sticking around as we explored boundaries!
Until next time, for now, let's jump into this week's Therapist Mama Bear tip!
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