Twinkling lights. Presents. Gatherings.
Holiday times can be really fun! It can also, be a really stressful time too. Let's chat about ways that we can take care of ourselves mentally during this time!
Set Realistic Expectations
It’s easy to get caught up in the idea of a “perfect holiday,” but perfection is unattainable. Focus on enjoying the moment and setting realistic expectations for yourself and others. Something to remember is that YOUR "perfect" may be different from other people's "perfect". And that is ok!
If things don’t go as planned, try to roll with it and let go of the need to control everything. As a mama to twin boys who are both on the autism spectrum, I tell myself this often! It's ok that things don't go as planned. We can still enjoy ourselves. Take a break when we need it. It's ok.
Practice Self-Care
Prioritize your well-being by engaging in activities that help you recharge, like reading, walking, taking a bath, or meditating. If you don't feel like you can socialize, it's ok to NOT do that. It's also ok to take a break from socializing when you need it too. I love to read in the tub when I can!
If you're feeling overwhelmed, give yourself permission to say no to activities or events that drain you. Similar to above, it's ok to say "no." This year. I am not going to my company's holiday party, since they are doing a holiday boat tour, and as fun as it sounds, 1. I get sea sick, so I won't be able to enjoy the lights and 2. it sounded a bit... overwhelming for me, to be stuck on a boat with so many people. So, I declined the invite. And while I do feel a bit guilty, that is ok!
Stay Connected
Reach out to friends, family, or a support network when you’re feeling isolated or stressed. This does not have to be in person- sometimes, a simple text can be helpful! One way, I stay connected with my loved ones is by sending memes, funny stories, a quick text, etc.
If you can't be with loved ones in person, consider virtual gatherings or sending thoughtful messages to stay connected. If an in person meeting feels like a bit much (or it isn't realistic), then virtual gatherings are a great option! Some of my loved ones are very far away from me- so one way I try to stay connected other than texting and being on the phone, is to do virtual chats. Sometimes, seeing someone's face can be really helpful to feel connected.
With these in mind, let's jump into this week's Therapist Mama Bear Tip!
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