Being a parent is a remarkable journey, rich with joys and challenges. When you're parenting a child with special needs, these feelings can be intensified. Balancing daily tasks, advocating for your child's needs, and providing emotional support can often leave little room for your own care. But prioritizing self-care is essential for special needs parents. It helps you stay physically and emotionally ready to offer the best support to your child.
In this post, we’ll explore five practical ways to practice self-care while being a special needs parent.
As you may know, I'm a mama to twin boys who are both autistic- they are absolutely amazing and we wouldn't change them for the world! AND it can be easy for us to forget about ourselves in that journey without making sure we are using our skills so we can be ok to take care of the boys the best way we can!
1. Establish a Routine
Creating a structured daily routine serves as a lifeline for both you and your child. For many children with special needs, having a predictable schedule offers comfort and security.
For parents, this routine gives you a sense of control. Set aside specific time blocks for self-care activities like exercise, reading, or even a short coffee break. For instance, research shows that establishing a routine can reduce anxiety in children with autism by nearly 50%, providing benefits to the entire family.
For my boys, this is very true- although they do pretty well even when we deviate from the routine at times, they do sooo much better when we inform them about what is going to happen and they are aware! The unknown can be scary!
2. Find Your Group
Connecting with other parents in similar situations can be incredibly reassuring. Engage with local support groups, join online communities, or participate in social media forums. Having a network of individuals who understand your challenges can offer both support and validation.
Sharing experiences can lighten your burden. For example, you might learn new strategies or simply have a safe space to vent. Studies suggest that parents in support groups feel less isolated and often report an increase in overall emotional well-being.
I know this can be hard- for me, I don't have a lot of friends who also have autistic or special needs kiddos. BUT what I do have is people who love my boys and celebrate them for who they are. I have people who love ME and support me- even if they don't completely understand. And that, is huge too.
3. Schedule 'Me Time'
Make it a priority to allocate time each week for yourself—yes, even if it’s only an hour. This could mean treating yourself to a spa day at home, hitting the gym, or enjoying your favorite book or show. By scheduling this time as a "non-negotiable appointment," you assert its importance in your life.
I totally understand how it can be difficult to do this! We may think “but my family needs me…” and you are right! Your family does need you- to be the best you can be! If you are stressed out, burnt out, etc. you won’t be able to be the best you can be!!
This 'me time' can significantly boost your mood when you feel worn out. According to experts, taking regular breaks for self-care can improve your resilience by up to 30%. Remember, self-care is not selfish; it's necessary.
With these in mind, let’s jump into this week’s Therapist mama bear tip!
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