So this week, we are going to kick off our discussion about types of boundaries!
Some of this information is from https://www.therapistaid.com/worksheets/boundaries-psychoeducation-printout
This week, let's chat about physical boundaries!
When you hear the word physical boundaries, what do you think of?
Physical boundaries refer to personal space and physical touch. Basically, Healthy physical boundaries include an awareness of what's appropriate, and what's not, in various settings and types of relationships.
For example, we would not go into a job interview and plant a big kiss on the interviewer.
Physical boundaries may be violated if someone touches you when you don't want them to, or when they invade your personal space.
If someone comes into your place and steals from you, or takes something even after you said no, that would be a violation of physical boundaries.
Let's relate back to the closeness of boundaries to this!
What would a porous physical boundary look like?
What would a rigid physical boundary look like? What would a healthy physical boundary look like?
For example, a porous physical boundary may look like a friend who borrows money from your desk because they know it's there and they know that you will "say yes anyway."
A rigid physical boundary may be like if you are married to someone and throughout your relationship up into now, you have not touched each other in any way shape or form.
Here is the thing- what is healthy, rigid or porous in our physical boundaries (or any type!) depends on your comfort level, the relationship you have with that person, etc. what is healthy for your relationship with your significant other is different from your supervisor at work.
Until next time, for now, let's jump into this week's Therapist Mama Bear tip!
Extra tip: once you think of your physical boundaries with them, are they porous, rigid or healthy? If they are rigid or porous, what can you do to move them to the opposite side a bit to make them a little healthier?
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