Do you struggle with loneliness? Honestly , personally it has been quite a long time since I have felt lonely. I remember when I was much younger, when I would feel lonely, even when I was surrounded by friends. I remember the feeling of just… feeling alone. Like no one understands.
One of the things I hear often from loved ones and/or individuals who are neurodivergent and/or have mental health struggles, is their feeling of loneliness. It’s an awful feeling.
So, I wanted to chat with you a bit about how we can cope with loneliness.
find people who understands. I know it can feel like there is no one understands. The truth is, it can be hard to find people that understands us 100%, and… sometimes we don’t even understand ourselves ! So how can we expect people to understand us completely? Find people who understand something about you or your struggles. For example, for me, I had a lot of trauma I was working through- it was hard for me to find people who could relate to my exact traumas, but I could find people who could understand one or some of them. And that was a big step!
2. Find people who you can have fun with. Now everyone is going to be someone that you can share your deepest secrets and feelings with. Not everyone is going to understand your struggles: and that is ok! I had some friends who can make me laugh and help me see the light, even when I didn’t see the light myself. They may not have truly understood what I was going through in the moment, but they still saw good in me.
3. Connect with people online, text, phone, etc.! When I struggled with seeing people in person, one of the things that helped was connecting through other means. I am a huge texter, so I tended to do that. What works for you?
With these in mind, let’s jump in to this week’s Therapist Mama Bear tip!
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