Last week, we talked about celebrating small wins and I teased that I’ll be talking about celebrating losses (the opposite of wins!) so let’s do it!
The other day, one of the boys had a very difficult moment at school. He escalated to verbal and physical aggression- which is OF COURSE not ok! But…. He also was able to apologize without being told to. He was able to talk with his teacher about what happened. He expresses true remorse. When we talk about it with him, although he struggled to explain, he was able to acknowledge that what the teacher shared was correct and was able to share what a better choice would have been.
One thing I always say to the boys (and myself… my friends.. and even my clients… and now you!) is that mistakes are OKAY. The important thing is to LEARN from those mistakes! Without mistakes or struggle, we would never really grow. And that would be boring! that is why we celebrate the losses. It doesn’t mean that we don’t acknowledge the pain or frustration or disappointment- we do. And… we choose to look at what we can learn from the experience too!. Sometimes it’s hard. I understand. We can do hard things- take your time and reach out to people who you can talk with if you need.
With this in mind, let’s jump in to this week’s Therapist Mama Bear tip!
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